What does it mean to get pissed off?
As per the definition given at http://www.thefreedictionary.com , getting pissed off means aroused to impatience or anger; “made an irritated gesture”; “feeling nettled from the constant teasing”; “peeved about being left out”; “felt really pissed at her snootiness”; “riled no end by his lies”; “roiled by the delay”
http://www.urbandictionary.com defines it as
1. Feeling like you can kill everyone in 1000 mile radius.
2. When your eyes bulge out and steam comes out from your ear.
Who gets “pissed off” at work?
This happens to everyone. Me, you, he, she, your boss, my boss – all.
Why do people get “pissed off”?
There comes a time when various factors affect the way we approach our job and daily routine at work. Personality clashes with boss and colleagues, lack of support from subordinates and superiors, bruised egos, missing out on crucial grapevine communication – all these can lead to a person feeling “really pissed off”. It can also occur when we are shunted from a comfort zone to an area which has a new ambiance and work culture, maybe due to our own interest or due to factors beyond our control. Things like fights and clashes at home; with parents, wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend are also factors that people will find it easy to alter from being normal at work to essentially barmy.
The last two days has been a real fire fighting session for me. New kid on the block at unfamiliar terrain had been literally in trouble for some days now. A good induction, training, and celebratory period over, the work has started. Quite experienced in similar area of expertise and put in a team of much younger, inexperienced colleagues had bought out extreme reactions, which even I could not contemplate from that buēn amigo.
“I am totally pissed off”
“Nobody teaches me anything”
Me: “Speak to your boss”
“He does not even bother to look at me”
Me: “What about your buddy trainer?”
“She does not talk to me, looks the other side when asked doubts”
I was naturally perturbed as the individual in apprehension has been one of the most psychologically and emotionally competent human being I had come across in my life. Various trials by fire that had happened earlier had been crossed with extreme ease. But why has this roadblock abruptly been placed as an obstacle?
There was no real reason I could think of. The normal inferences that one could get into for the source of the trouble were not applicable in this case to a great extent. But whatever said and done, it had been a problem for which the solution I had to find.
All I could make out from my little experience of handling multiple egos and characters was that the comfort level that had been the hallmark of the preceding vocation had been missing here. The one who was a leader of the pack in the erstwhile realm had been reduced to an adherent.
This insight also gave me the prose that I had to put into the response that I had to give to the distressed heart.
“It is not rocket science”
“Lesser mortals are doing it”
“You have done greater deeds before”
These words were repeated overtime, in various modes and after repeated lectures, and a good sound sleep later, had better sense prevailing.
“I seem Ok now. Tomorrow may be better”
I thought again – “Maybe better”….. “Ah… People don’t change”
What I had understood out of this is that the feeling of “being pissed off” at work is a good reality check. We may be flying high, overconfident that the fuel that pushes our wings is everlasting. Suddenly the wings melt and we come plunging down towards veracity.
Coming out of such jagged circumstances help us put together the brass tacks on which the mainstays of our vocation are built on. There is nothing wrong in falling down into the pit and climbing out successfully. Every triumphant individual has come out of such situations successfully and has survived to tell a story.
I can only conclude this by quoting Albert Einstein –
“Life is like riding a bicycle – in order to keep your balance, you must keep moving”.
Hope you get the point!!!